Falling in love can be easy, but building, sustaining, and growing that love takes intention. Like anything else in life worth having, relationships take work.
Licensed psychotherapist and couples’ therapist with 30+years’ experience. Named Best Marriage Counselor by Los Angeles Awards, 2015.
“Don’t assume that your partner knows how you feel about them, make an intentional effort to show them that you love them and that you value your relationship as a couple.”
Neuroscientists and “experts in love" have outlined four stages of a relationship. Starting from falling in love to living happily ever after (or, at least, for a while) and a couple's ability to navigate these stages is often the key to their relationship satisfaction.
For the past several decades, there have been many studies of the brain activity of people in love, from the early to the later stages. But the million-dollar question remains…..how can we keep love going and keep that first date feeling alive?
According to researchers, one of the most effective ways of keeping the spark alive is “novelty”. Studies that have followed couples for years have found that doing new, exciting, and challenging activities together on a regular basis have huge benefits for relationships.
Another way is to “play to each other’s strengths” by discovering each person’s top five strengths and then plan dates that emphasize one from each partner. Research shows that when you’re exercising what you’re naturally good at, your individual well-being tends to increase. This activity allows you to come together as a couple to exercise strengths from both partners. It’s a unique and powerful way to approach dates.
Alicia Keys advises : “We like surprising each other and going on secret weekend dates. One of us plans it and the other has no idea where we are going. We've found some undiscovered gems and moments to take hikes or walks or just discover new things about life and each other. Those are my favorite times.”
Justin Timberlake advises: “Never stop dating. That's always my rule, even when you get married you have to keep dating... It's just the difference comes when you have kids you have to actually schedule the date."
John Legend advises: “You just have to make time for each other, go on little trips like we did for her birthday and go to dinner just the two of you sometimes. You still have to have romance time.”
When it comes to relationships, there is no instruction manual but novelty and playing to each other’s strengths, just maybe some of the keys to cracking the code of lasting love.
And that’s where we can help!
You have a relationship worth recognizing and we can help you show your partner that you love them and value your relationship as a couple by celebrating the milestones. Those authentic moments of connection are not simply found, they need to be meticulously designed to be as unique as you and your partner. Building a strong foundation of communication or rekindling intimacy, we cater to all stages of a relationship. Let us help to create a special conneXion package just for you!
You’re still feeling that euphoria of falling in love. Forgiveness and passion comes easy. You’ve got a good thing going and know that showing your partner how much they truly mean to you is a recipe for success. Nothing shows you are invested in a new beginning more than a memorable, bespoke, tailor-made experience that caters to them.
You have a partner who is with you through it all. Friendship and intimacy may have taken a backseat to the logistics of life. Find an escape from the ordinary, the everyday, the mundane. An event as special as your significant other is sure to keep that first date feeling.
Growth and change over they years may cause you to need to get reacquainted with your partner. Like all good things in life, relationships take work. They need time, care and personal investment, they need maintenance. You need to appreciate the love that got you this far by honouring it with an experience that will undoubtedly relight the flame that started it all.
You are in the calm and secure stage of your relationship. Life has thrown it all at you already and guess what, you’re still standing. Your lives are intertwined and you have formed an unshakable bond even when a crisis comes your way. You want to appreciate your partner and celebrate the love you share.